The owner of a public relation firm in Atlanta and a mother of three, Laura Simms says that her 11- years-old daughter called Marlo has a mentality that her mother is always wrong about everything and always corrects her, reports CNN.
Relaying what her young daughter might say to her, the exasperated mother says, “‘No, the sky is not blue. It is actually green.’ ‘No, it was $1.26, not $1.25, Mom.’ ‘No we went on Friday, it wasn’t Saturday.”
It is possible for any parent for a tween or teen to probably relate what Simms is undergoing, reports Empowering Parents.
After listening to Simms, parenting strategist and licensed family therapist Tricia Ferrara advised her that she should focus more on what is happening with her daughter instead on focusing on whether she is right or wrong.
Ferrara added that what Marlo is developing is most likely to be a communication habit of unsolicited opinion.
For that reason Simms was urged by Ferrara to use the following approach: “Instead of being about whether you are right or wrong, almost like I can’t do anything right or say anything right for my daughter, it is about, ‘You know what honey, let’s have a time out, Okay? If I asked your opinion of my answer, I would want to hear it,’”
According to Simms, our responses also play a big role in how our kids respond to us.
“I see many parents just barking on their kids or sometimes on their businesses, and so they think it is very right to do that in reverse,” said Ferrara, a mother of two teenagers.
Dr. Claudia Gold, an infant mental health specialist and author said that it is very common to have a child who thinks you are wrong all the time. And it is a normal developmental phenomenon.
Prior to adolescence, the child’s perceived image of you may be triggered by the kind of friends your child keeps. But once they step into adolescence, it may be because the child wants to set his own course by separating from the family.
Gold explains that once a person begins to gain age, their cognitive skills equally develop thus improving on their abstract thinking capability.
She advises that parents should not take the indifference to be as a serious matter as they may want to make it. As time passes by, the irritating behavior may eventually go away. what should captivate your attention most is when your child’s behavior starts to cause problems in the family and at times pushing the parent’s buttons.